Narcissitic and Absent Sibling...no help

by Britney
(Nevada)

Yes. The guilt and anger are real. A brother, who was the golden child in parents' eyes, is no help.


Parents express that "he's too busy or he does a lot." He does nothing except cause anxiety and depression. I, in turn,am not the same person I once was with the whole family.

I especially resent my mother who I believe put me in this position by showering her son with ridiculous compliments and fostering his narcissism.

I hate this life and hate taking care of them. The younger brother even stole twenty thousand which I believe was given to him secretly by the mother I must take care of. How do I manage? I am praying a lot!

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Its not you, she hates
by: Anonymous

Your mom knows you don't like her sending money to your brother. But victims of abuse seem to always seek the love of their abuser! She obviously feels she needs his love to complete her validation on some level!
I feel your pain and I'm sorry for it! What your doing is right though! God bless you! B

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Bad Brother
by: Anonymous

I can relate with the "Brother Problem". Mine is in prison for beating my Mom with a steel bar. My sisters and I have severed any ties with him. My Mother had a nervous break down after the attack, but to this day she sends money to him in prison by giving it to my Aunt.

We are against her doing this, but she doesn't care what we think. She lives with me now for 12 years, and is continually gripping about something. My middle sister help in the mornings, then I have her after work and week ends.

Mom is angry with me all the time and I never do anything right. She runs my sister around like a slave, ordering her to get this and do that. She now is getting to the place where we can't move her around very easy.

Her health is good, but her body is worn out. I don't understand why she is so mean to me, and thinks my brother is "misunderstood." We are trying to keep her at home, but she doesn't seem to be grateful for our efforts.

That makes me upset and then I feel guilty because she is old. My sister has her about 10 hours per week, the other sister sees her about 2 hours on Saturday, and I have her all the rest of the time.

I am the one she seem to dislike the most. She is almost a complete invalid, so everything is carried to her and done for her. What have I done to her, compared to that brother of mine.

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