Narcissistic Mother with Dementia
My mother was diagnosed with dementia two years ago. She can no longer walk or care for herself in any way. I retired early and moved to a house in her home town and moved her in with me and my boyfriend. I have one brother and one sister who do nothing for her or help me in any kind of way.
She has always treated me worse than my brother and sister despite the fact that I have been the only one there for her forever. Now she is treating me even worse than before.
She says mean ugly things to me like she hates me and she wishes I would die. But on the rare occasion that she sees my brother or sister she is very sweet to them and tells them she loves them.
Additionally, anyone who comes to my home she is as sweet as can be to them and is very cooperative.
Physically I am much smaller than her and basically she will not help me in anyway when trying to move her from one place to another (from the chair to the bed, from the chair to the toilet, etc.) However, she cooperates when other people try to physically assist her in moving.
I am at my wits end! She has been ruining my life for a very long time now and I can't take anymore. The more she upsets me the happier she seems.