My veteran grandfather

by Austin
(Massachusetts)

So I am a 17 year old and I am a caregiver of an 87 year old Korean war veteran. His wife died when his daughter was only 15 years old. So he hasn't had a soulmate for a long time. He got together with another person and they were happy for I believe 20 years. It wasn't until recently they broke up and now he is lonely again. Another problem for me is my own mother died when I was 15 so it was up to me, my sister and dad to take care of him.


My grandfather's son lives in Georgia and we live in Massachusetts so he cant help as much. He had to go to the hospital recently which meant walking, let alone up/down stairs, was really hard for him.

That lead to us installing a stair lift so we don't need to help him every time. The doctors also gave him a low sodium diet meaning anything above 15% sodium he cant eat.

He doesn't have Alzheimer's but he does forget every now and again about the diet. He wakes up at 5 AM every morning saying he has a terrible night sleep. But he sleeps in and out throughout the day. We try to tell him to stop but he doesn't listen to us.

I become stressed each day and since my sister can't drive and my dad works long shifts. I was left to drive him around.

I cant get 'me' time or go to a store by myself because he will say "we both can go" I want to say I want some alone time by myself but I'm scared and don't know what he will say. I am very stressed and just want school to start again because that was the only time I could be me.

Any suggestions on how I can make my summer vacation less stressful? Anything will help. Thank you

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