My twin sister has left the country at a time when our 90 year old parents are looking to need help soon

My sister moved to Spain in February as she says that now she has retired she can't afford to live here in the UK. We have all lived in the same town for 29 years and this has meant that I'm left to look out for mum and dad. and they are 90 but still managing to stay independent for now. I take them shopping each week and visit during the week.


I have been childminding my grandchildren for the last 4 years and currently have my 2 1/2 year old grandson from 8.30 to 4.30 on Wednesday and from 1-4.30 pm on Thursday. I had his sister from 2013 to 2016 when she started school and have already had my grandson for almost 2 years now and will until September 2019...

My husband had an aortic rupture 5 years ago and although this he is pretty well these days he does have other health issues which mean we are out every few weeks for follow up appointments at the hospital.

Since my sister left, the relationship has gone steadily downhill as she has as yet declined to say what her level of help will be when my parents need more assistance. I feel let down and really angry as we are 65 now and she had indicated in the past that we'd share the care if needed in the future.

I don't know how I can get her to understand that these are not easy times for me as it is and will only get worse.

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