My Task is Finally Finished.

I have written here a few times over the last year and 1/2 and reading everyone's entries have been a blessing on many bleak days.

My mother-in-law, who was living with my husband and me for the last fourteen months, passed away last Sunday. It was an incredibly, difficult period in our lives and I would be lying if I denied the relief that I feel that it is finally over.

I will continue to read the entries posted here and support all of you who are going through this trying time. No one who doesn't live this situation can fully understand what we go through. I applaud each and every one of you as you do what is needed to get through each day. You are truly "unsung heroes".

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I understand your position well. My latest task is just one of four that I have had dealing with caregiving. (I had given care to my Grandmother, as well as my mother and father before my mother-in-law). It was also the most draining and depressing of them all.

Sometimes, I think that God presents me with the same lesson over and over again until I finally get it right. If this is true, I will most likely be in the role of caregiver again, because I am sure that I haven't gotten it right. I was fine taking care of her in her own home and running her errands, etc.

But, when she moved into my home, I resented never having a break. I resented everything. I hated the person that I allowed her to turn me into. Since her passing, I am starting to find the person I used to be.

My hope for you and everyone in our situation is that you have the support you need to get through this. The only support I had was this web-site and I really needed it.

Take care of yourself.

Strength and Guildance
by: Gloria

I feel guilty that I envy you now that your task is over, I have been my mothers soul carer for so many years it is like being on a macabre roller coaster that doesn't stop, there are some days when it isn't too bad but they are few and far between.

Two years ago one Xmas my mother was very ill she had pneumonia, on top of her other numerous complaints, Xmas day was spent changing her and the bedding as she had lost control of her bowels, she was in and out of sleep and I prayed that God would take her to her peace, but she didn't die she pulled through it, I still spend most of my time seeing to her every need.

My whole day revolves her as she is an invalid also she often becomes very strange and quite hostile once more I pray but this time for the strength and guidance to help me carry on.

Now that you are free enjoy your time that you have left on Earth, and I thank you for still thinking of those of us that still left to care.

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