My Sister that Lives Close by Never Helps!
I have been taking care of my mother for the past 5 years. I had an automobile accident, and sustained a really bad injury, went on disability for a year, and after my disability was not renewed, I resourced to my savings, until it was all gone.
I was forced to move in with my sister (that one that lives close by, and does not help)...My mother lives in Whittier, Ca, and I live in Burbank (because of house rules, I cannot live with her) so I drive to Whittier, and back to Burbank every day.
My sister calls my mom, every other day, but has not visited her for the past 3 years. Her suggestion is that I bring her to her house at least once a month, but that does not relieve me, she expects me to take care of her, and cook, because she is "too tired to cook".
Today, I called her and told her that she needs to come and visit, and take her out at least once a week. I told her that I needed a break, and that I wouldn't come along. Oh, also when I bring my mom to her house, and we decide to go out, I have to drive, because she hates driving.
I'm overwhelmed, and fed up with this situation. My other sister lives in Vancouver, and comes, and visits once a year, and never comes to my mom's house. My brother lives in Valencia, and we visit him, or try to visit once a month, and stay there for a week. He goes out of his way to cook, and make her as comfortable as possible, my sister-in-law helps out as well, and they call her once a week.
My biggest thing is that I don't feel appreciated. I forgot to mention that my mom's doctors are all in Burbank, so whenever she has appointments (at least 5/6 a month, I picked her up, drive her back, and go back to sleep at my sister's. Because I take care of her 7 days a week. I do spend Friday, and Saturday night at her house, but spend Monday through Friday at her house from 11am through 8:30pm