My Nasty Brothers Only Care About the Money!

by Anoymous

My husband, daughter and myself have been caring for my parents for five years. No one cared about what went on or how my parents were doing.


I would call and ask for someone to relive us so we could go on vacation but no one was available, even when asked six months ahead of time! We have two grandchildren that live in another state, the youngest is 2 1/2 and we have seen him twice!

This hurts but my parents can't travel and we can't leave them alone. My 87 year old father has Alzheimer's and my 85 year old mother had a stroke so they have moved in to my home.

We had our bathroom remodeled for wheelchairs and hardwood floors laid wherever there was carpet.

We gave them our master suite and my husband and I sleep in the living room. It was a battle with two of my brothers who wanted my parents put into a nursing home.

They even hired an attorney to stop them from moving in with me. Myself, my daughter and sister stayed nine days with our mom and grandma then she was transferred to a rehab hospital only one of us was allowed to sleep there so my sister and I took turns.

The doctors, nurses and therapists were so happy she would be living with me. They could not believe my brothers were try to place her in a nursing home! The doctors said we made her live. That is the only explanation for her to have survived! She is now almost walking on her own, she has her mind and is almost back to normal.

My two brothers were afraid I would steal my parents money! The one brother divorced my parents and us Siblings three years ago and now all of the sudden he has come to save our parents from me.

The other brother never cared, in fact when I called him and told him that the doctors don't expect mom to live so you need to get here, did he come not for three weeks! His businesses, that my parents gave him the money to start came first!

He is the Power Of Attorney for my parents finances. He had my father sign it over to him and my father was deemed incompetent one year ago, so illegal. None of my siblings live near us, thank god! My brother has made it so hard for me to care for my parents.

He has put security steps on everything, if I try to cash a check for my parents the bank has to call him and he either approves it or denies it! This is ludicrous! My parents can't even spend their money without my brothers written permission, that is elder abuse!

My father made a very good living and now he can't spend his money! I am being treated like the bad guy and all I am doing is trying to take care of my parents.

All I want is for my parents to live healthy and happy the rest of their lives!

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