It is so helpful when you read other articles and hear the stories of each of you. The empathy pours from my heart. I understand and hear every word that you each have said. Yes, the terms of each of our conditions can be different yet the feelings and despair are still similar. We are presently dealing with my mother-in-law who is completely unbearable.
She has always had such a strong personality, demanding, yes she's been spoiled, and very much in control. Now that dementia is starting it has combined with this personality.
We now have her personality with the unbearable anxiousness, 54 and more calls a day after you were just over there for hours. Her anxiousness is driving her and us crazy.
Yes, my mother-in-law has a sweet side and I try to think about that. But, I admit I am not able to see it as much when you're in the middle of all that we are dealing with.... it seems as if a heavy fog comes and sits over you a cloud of gloom and despair.
It's hard to see an end to all this....on top of this my father-in-law who is so precious is totally dependent because of macular degeneration, his hearing, and frailness.... being in his nineties so we are caring for both of them.
I'd have to say the emotional side from a panic-stricken stricken, overbearing mother-in-law is the worst!! I never knew caregiving was anything like this!! We built a home next to them to help in the older years not knowing it would be like this. I wish we never had.
We are presently looking into a assisted living facility but my husband is the only child and I know he is feeling guilty to even think of a home. I'm praying that we can get a reprieve from this. I didn't sign up for this.
I remember that I would wonder when others would pray that their parents would just fall asleep and go on to heaven but now I understand. Sadly I don't think anyone should have to go through this.
It's just too hard.
I miss my life with my husband. God give us all wisdom and strength to steer through this and at the same time have our own lives!