My Mother is Still Driving and I am Worried to Death for Her

by Joanne
(Denver, CO)

My mother can only be described as "one of those" elderly drivers.


We have had her close by for three years now and she insists on being independent and going to the grocery store and hairdressers on a weekly basis. Having insurance for an elderly driver has been a real help for the sake of losing everything in an accident, however I cannot stop worrying about her out and about on a twice or three times weekly basis.

Senior drivers insurance is one thing, getting lost or having an accident like I hear on the local news is another....

Just heard another report about an elderly driver crashing into a store front (fortunately no one was injured)...doing major damage is a concern, sure but what about if someone is injured or killed....not something to have with you at 87 years old.

Her car is always in pretty clean condition as she has it washed and has maintenance done on it. I always look around the car and scratches and dents on three of the four corners have really got me concerned. There seemed to be fresh damage there just the other day.

When I confronted her with it she gets REAL defensive and and swears that has been that way "for years and years".

I have tried to have a conversation with her about potentially taking the keys away and volunteering to be her chauffeur but she will have none of it.

Do I continue on like this or do I insist that she give up the keys and allow me to be her driver? I am not sure that I can be at her beck and call as I am still working and have a home to take care of (and hers to).

Does anyone have a suggestion as to how to broach the subject or have a third party come in to speak with her about this? I thought maybe one of her friends or someone from the police department might help her decide that this is best.

The other issue is that I have been able to be free from this added time that can be spent on my own life...kind of makes me feel guilty.

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