My Mother is Causing my Mental & Physical Health to Suffer

by Dawn
(Texas)

My father passed away around fifteen years ago, leaving my Mother with little money and a bleak future. While both of my parents had worked all of their lives, there just was not enough money to go around and certainly no savings to draw on.


My Mother tried to make it on her own but house maintenance, health issues and unexpected expenses forced her to lose her home. One of my siblings lived near her and the other in the adjoining state. My husband and I had just returned from living overseas and he was taking a job half way around the country. Even so, I offered to let my Mother move in with us, since my siblings were not really settled and ready to take on the responsibility.

Since then, my Mother has taken over my household, driven us into bankruptcy, and made me feel completely worthless as a Mother, wife and sister. I am experiencing such anxiety and depression that I am on medication now and cannot keep a job. I have no social life and spend my days taxiing Mother to her own club meetings, church affairs and doctor appointments.

My husband and I are like strangers and our marriage of 27 years has suffered dramatically. Our 23 year old son, who still lives at home, bears the brunt of the animosity I have for my situation and I know that it all has to affect him adversely.

Meanwhile, both of my siblings have gotten married, and settled down. One has a very good job, as does her husband, and they have recently purchased a very large, beautiful home.They have no children. The other has just opened his own store and he and his wife are living comfortably. They too, have no children.

Neither has contributed a dime or any other assistance during the time my Mother has resided with my family, the past 9 years! And all the while, I am subjected to my Mother's constant praising of my siblings and their spouses. How much can one take?!

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