My Mom is Becoming Crazy

by Frustrated
(Idaho)

She is accusing everyone of taking things when she can't find them. My Dad is chasing women in the nursing home and making derogatory comments to my Mom. She asked me if I got in their safe because she can't find 6,000.00 that was in there.


She complains constantly that she is all alone and no one cares. I don't know how to deal with it all. It's becoming nothing but stress. Wow...

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May 13, 2018
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Yes, I Remember This
by: Alexis

My mom passed away July, 2017, and I remember these experiences very well. She had severe dementia (not Alzheimer's) and I was her only child.

I was accused of stealing from her, stealing from her *to keep a man on the side (!!!)*, paying my bills with her money, cheating her, leaving her to die, leaving her to starve, and more things than I can recall right now.

I know experts say not to take it personally, but it's hard not to, especially when you are one responsible for the utterly thankless job of caretaker. Not only is your mom becoming crazy, she'll probably take you with her for a while.

I'm *still* decompressing from my 10-year experience. I had no help, and I probably drove my friends away with my venting. I'm not completely healed yet, but I'm better. Hang in there, Frustrated in Idaho. Take courage from the knowledge that the end will come.

May 12, 2018
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the way it is
by: Anonymous

Paranoia about people stealing and accusations are very common with dementia and Alzheimer's, so do NOT take this personally.

It sounds like your mom lives alone? Or does she live in the nursing home with your dad? If she lives alone, you are at a point where she absolutely should not be from what you are describing.

If she's in the nursing home, thank your lucky stars you can walk out the door and go back to your life.

My mom is with me 24/7 and does everything you described. I've seen her brain MRI and it looks like swiss cheese. They can't help what they do. The brain is damaged and will continue to get worse.

There is no turning back. Take each day as it comes and try to understand this could be you or me someday. It's hard to not get angry, but there really is no one to direct that anger to. It is what it is. There is a good book called The Thirty Six Hour Day written for caregivers or anyone with aging parents that explains a lot. It's really helped me to understand.

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