My Elderly Mom Jealous, Passive-Aggressive
(Little River, SC)
My stepfather died last year, my mother is 81. My husband and I are the only family she has, and we take excellent care of her. She is still very independent. Two weeks ago, my husband's ex-wife and our son (8-1/2) moved 5 minutes away from us. We all co-parent and get along very well. My mother has always been attention-seeking, and has recently begun "looking" for all the bad things, especially with our son and his mom. There are very few issues with mom and son, and we welcome them in our home as our family, as we do with my mom.
My mother calls me 4-5 times a day, I run a business, and I give her all of the attention that I can, on an average of 2-3 hours daily.
I don't know how to stop this incessant neediness, and her need to find the negative, and enjoy our extended family. She has no relationship with our son, as she does not try to communicate with him at all.
I am extremely stressed with the situation, but handle it with calmness and love. Any suggestions would be immensely helpful.