My Dad has Always been an Unreasonable Biggot but Wow it is Taking on a Whole new Meaning.

My dad is a recovered alcoholic and hasn't had a drink in about 20 years. He is 86 years old now. He has always been a selfish man putting himself before others but thinks he is always putting my mom first.


He is very verbally abusive. We all thought that would change when he stopped drinking but it didn't. He has an Archie Bunker on steroids personality. Now the unimaginable has happened.

A very nice African American man has moved in next door and my dad is beside himself. He is so ridiculous to the point of being delusional. He sits up at night with his pistol because he has to protect his home.

His personality has always been hot headed but he is off the charts now. He peeks out the window and becomes enraged when the neighbor has visitors. My poor mom is the victim of his ranting as he does not say anything to the neighbor and I do not know if that is because he knows he is being ridiculous or if I am just lucky that he hasn't gone that route yet.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with an elderly, unreasonable bigot parent?

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by: Rebecca

Wow. I thought I had it bad. Your description of your father is similar to mine. We've always called him Archie Bunker, and he is mean and angry, calls people names, which he thinks is hilarious, etc. BUT, thank God he doesn't have access to guns!

Honestly, the only suggestion I can think of, since I'm also at my own wits end, is GET THAT GUN AWAY FROM HIM before he hurts someone, especially you or your mother, by accident, or the neighbor, on purpose. I feel for you. My father is bad enough physically, emotionally, and mentally now that we've been talking about nursing homes, which he would hate. But, I really can't take his verbal abuse much longer.

It's finally dawned on me that he doesn't have the right to shorten MY life span just so he can stay at home. Maybe you should consider a placement. You father sounds dangerous to himself and everyone around him.

I've never written a response like this before online. I was searching for some info about dealing with angry elderly parents when I stumbled upon this. I hope the best for you.

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