My Brother keeps asking Husband to do Things

by Kathy
(Uk)

My mum went into a care home.. And my brother asked my husband for some bit to be done around my mums house. So I said yes... He can install a new bathroom. Then there was talk about sorting her things out. I know I've been avoiding this but I'm fuming because my husband started chucking things out. I said that I didn't want him to do that as it did not have anything to do with him to make that decision. A week went past and it was clear he was still going to the house.


Doing more things like tiling in the kitchen. I didn't say anything although I am not happy he is there! Then today my son said they had been down my mums house again this time discussing with my brother about getting a van to remove her stuff.

I'm very upset about this, I don't know why because my mum and I weren't close but shes not dead and although she has Alzheimer's she is much nicer now. I'm trying to make sense of what's going on and trying to keep in perspective. My husband doesn't work... I wish he'd put as much time in getting a job as seems to spending at my mums.

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Brothers help stresses me out
by: Stressed Out Daughter

My brother visited for the weekend and I feel more stressed out than ever.
His idea of help is to audit and question and criticize all the work I do managing all the financial and caregiving affairs, upset me till I am a crying mess, and then flys off back to his home, commenting what an emotional mess I am.

It is amazing how this has stressed me out and left me in a worse state than before he arrived.

Thanks for the help Ha

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