My brother and his wife do not help

by Marlene
(San Mateo, California)

Taking care of my elderly parents is such a hasell.

The guilt alone for thinking these words is a big burden to me. In addition, I am constantly bombarded with second guessing and being questioned from my brother about the quality of Dad and Mom's elderly care, that the anger I feel really comes to the breaking point sometimes.

Does anyone know how to handle the questions and wise cracks from a brother or sister who won't help but just second guesses?