Mum Expecting too Much

by Susan
(NSW)

I don't want to come across as being hard to get along with, but I am at the stage that I don't even like my mother any more, she has been living with my husband and myself for six years going onto seven years in March.


I work a forty hour week, leave all her meals prepared for her while I am at work, do all her cleaning, washing, ironing, and clean her up when she has soiled every where. My husband organizes all her doctors appointments, community car picks up her webster packs, because we can't leave any kind of medication around.

She is a self medicated user, so she has anger outburst calls us for everything under the sun,won't go anywhere with my brother or sister.

I feel like I am smothering, my husband and I have been married for thirty six years, can't have a holiday or even go out to dinner on our own....she wants to come everywhere with us. We have two beautiful sons married with children, they come to home after school and I pick one up from day care. She will yell and scream at the kids until I say something then all hell breaks loose.

I love my grandchildren so very much but she is so jealous of them, that they have come around very little over Xmas, because they are scared of her when she starts yelling and screaming at me.

All she does is watch T.V and sleep in the lounge chair all day, I have to fight with her to bathe, she always says she has had her shower, so I have to say to her you are not coming out with us today until you have showered.....she does not do one thing for herself. I feel I can't do this anymore but don't know what to do. Help me please

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