Ms Victoria

by Victoria
(Harlow Essex UK)

I have been the sole carer for my 88 year old Mother for seven years now and I am totally exhausted, she lives alone in her little flat and after a heart attack and recently a stroke no longer goes out. I shop clean wash pay her rent sort her medication etc. I retired and then got hit with this situation immediately.


My Brother in Devon said she could live with them, but this she adamantly refused to do, although I have been blamed by my family for her refusal to go it was her choice it was entirely up to her.

I can get no help with her even though I am unwell myself, to state I am exhausted and fed up after not having had a break or a holiday for years would be an understatement we were told by the carers assessment that there were people far worse off than us, just lots of questions form filling in but no practical help offered.

My Mother also takes this situation for granted and tells me often that I do very little for her which makes things even worse.

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I know how you feel
by: Michael

Dealing with my father in law, very ungrateful person which is driving my wife and I crazy. He needs to go to a home. He has the money and is too cheap to spend it.

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Your twin story.
by: Anonymous

Your story sounds exactly like my situation with my Mother. I am exhausted as well, and have to deal with the most negative person that ever existed.

I get no help, and no appreciation either. Just expectation, demands. And get no credit for all that I do for her. I feel like she is going to drive me to the funny farm.

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