(Harlow Essex UK)
I have been the sole carer for my 88 year old Mother for seven years now and I am totally exhausted, she lives alone in her little flat and after a heart attack and recently a stroke no longer goes out. I shop clean wash pay her rent sort her medication etc. I retired and then got hit with this situation immediately.
My Brother in Devon said she could live with them, but this she adamantly refused to do, although I have been blamed by my family for her refusal to go it was her choice it was entirely up to her.
I can get no help with her even though I am unwell myself, to state I am exhausted and fed up after not having had a break or a holiday for years would be an understatement we were told by the carers assessment that there were people far worse off than us, just lots of questions form filling in but no practical help offered.
My Mother also takes this situation for granted and tells me often that I do very little for her which makes things even worse.