Mother-In-Stress....For Son-In-Law

by Doug
(Warren PA )

For the past 2 years my mother in law is living with us....3 months with us and then with the other daughter, about 6 months out of the year.


My wife comes home from work and fixes her lunch than back to work. When she gets home after work we have dinner (I usually make it). Her mother wants to be waited on, she does not clear her dishes or even get her own coffee. She is very mobile (more so then myself, I will not wait on her). I have MS and she can get around better than myself. Her daughters must think she is a queen.

We have no expectations for her to due any type of chores around the house. Is it unrealistic to expect her to bring dirty dishes to the kitchen or to get herself coffee? Morning are her roughest time, after she eats breakfast she parks in her chair and reads or puzzles and naps throughout the day.

I feel bad for my wife dealing with her needs along with my health problems however, I do not want or expect to be waited on. I try to be out of the house during the day as much as possible.
WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THIS SITUATION?

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by: Doug

I need to say she is 85. I am 46, and my wife is 52 WHO ALSO IS DEALING WITH Osteoporosis along with her mother. I have Multiple Sclerosis (progressive) long with Spinal Stenosis and have a Intrathecal Baclofen Pump Intrathecal Baclofen Pump System, which is inserted for Spasticity.

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