Mother-in-Law 55 with Dementia
(Stoughton, MA USA)
It's awful.Going on three years..We live in her house..she took an eight year vacation after her husband passed away in his forties..She slept all day. Smoked like a chimney and spent his life insurance and blew everything before she went to work. She would fall asleep watching my children.
She always yells when she talks, belches out loud. She's diabetic, smokes and talks in a nasally high pitched voice. She put herself in debt and she is short and obese and talks like a baby and she is only fifty-five. My husband and I are struggling very hard working all day and he is in school, just to put food on the table.
We ran out of groceries and she bitches if there's no food. She gets her husband's pension and watches TV twenty-four hours a day. Her other son who only lives a couple of towns away, never visits and rarely calls and when he lived with her he bought his own food, never shoveled her out..She brags about him but my husband and I cook her dinners, pay all the bills and buy all the food and she has the nerve to say that she is in debt because of us..She did it to herself..She makes a mess if she doesn't take her anti-diarrhea pills and I clean it....
At fifty-three she had a stroke and when she came back, she is supposed to eat right,exercise and stop smoking..She stopped paying her car insurance so she will drive herself to the store and not say thanks at times..Whether she knows it or not,she takes advantage of us and we think because of the stroke she is getting dementia but she talks like a baby with poor manners and won't even let us help her cause she has no self-discipline.
I think she expects us to wait on her hand and foot and cook for her while she sits on her obese ass and watch TV all day. She goes days without showers and wears the same stupid flowery tank top for days on end. What is wrong with this poor excuse of a woman. My mom has had it really tough and is three years older, independent, raised my brother and I and is just getting sober while doing it all. I hate to say it but with her sleep apnea, diabetes, smoker after stroke and obesity and sedentary life style.
My husband says how is she still alive?? I would rather die in a cave alone than to burden my children....The sad thing is, is that she is too dumb to realize that we take care of her and she thinks she's independent...grrr