Mother In Law moved in at 96 years Old

My Mother In Law had to move in with us. She is 96, Blind, Spanish Speaking, (I am not), and has some dementia and memory problems.


I feel guilty for having resentment with this situation. She wants to be independent, but can not live on her own now.

My life is put on hold. I cannot just go places, or plan anything. I worry about her all the time. What happens if she get’s sick, becomes continent, or falls?

I do not want her to go to nursing care with all of her communication abilities compromised.

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Dealing with dementia
by: Anonymous

Feeling resentment is normal. So take a deep breath and relax. I sometimes resent the fact that my husband and I have massive stress in our life due to his father's dementia when he never had to go through any of this.

His own father died from a heart attack whereas medical progress has enabled OUR father to pursue immortality with the added gift of dementia.

So no, you are not alone on the resentment front. I'm afraid with dementia it is all downhill from here. Incontinence, falls, sun downing, suspicion, I could go on. None of it is pretty. Have you thought that a nursing home is possibly the best place for her as staff are trained in dealing with dementia.

It all depends how much of your life you are prepared to sacrifice and your relationship to her.

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