Mother in Law Moved in Aaagggh

by Anonymous

My mother in law moved in with us a year ago when her lovely, outgoing husband died. She couldn't live alone so we've bought a bigger home to accommodate her.


She drives me nuts some days, she has COPD,is incontinent and sits in her chair all day watching mindless TV shows. She expects to be waited on (which her husband did) but my husband and I refuse to and encourage her to help herself.

My husband is wonderful unlike her other child who lives on the other side of the world and hasn't asked us once how she is since she moved in. I insisted on buying a home with 2 lounges and discourage her to come into ours.

Some sanity savers have been daily walks,monthly massages, going for a Friday drink and we go away once every 6 weeks for an overnight stay somewhere nice but within an hours drive in case we have to rush home.

I often feel resentful, peeved and want to shake her but at the end of the day it is what it is.

Kudos to all of us out there who are doing this, its tough and often thankless but at the end of the day a lot of us have no other choice.

Take one day at a time and if your at breaking point go somewhere or do something nice for yourself!

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by: Red

Thanks for the post. I really love your coping ideas. My stress levels are so high right now I’m about to lose my mind. I need to regularly schedule breaks like you describe.

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