Moms Falls Make Me Feel so Bad

by Nimbut
(USA)

Not much lately. Took my mom out to a fall festival. She just wanted to sit. On the way home she said she felt dizzy. Got her into the house and she went to the bathroom. On her way back into her bedroom she fell when turning while using her walker somehow. Landed on her face.


I was in the other room. Her cuts were superficial but she hadn't had a bad fall in over a year.

Took her to the ER and nothing broken or bruised or bleeding internally. But they had to glue the cuts on her face near her eye shut. And the sight of the bruises around her eye makes me so depressed.

She has been tired but nothing major do I don't know why she fell except I feel like she knows I'm exhausted and depressed.
And it feels terrible that this happened again.

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lift chair
by: Anonymous

My mom is 92 and because of macular degeneration she has difficulty with her vision which makes her at risk of sustaining a fall. She requires close supervision when outside her house.

Anyone familiar with lift chair recliners for mobility issues?

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Its NOT Your Fault
by: Anonymous

As s a caregiver, like you, I have yearned for sympathy for over 3 years now. I am stretched to the limit with little time to indulge in my own needs and desires. I understand where you're coming from and want to tell you one thing: forgive yourself for not being everything perfect.

Be proud of what you have done to help your mother. Maybe more important, learn to empathize with your self because no matter how much other people may sympathize with you, it doesn't begin to give you as much comfort as soothing yourself and reminding yourself that you're a good person.

It isn't selfish to do that. Your needs are just as important as your mother's and, most of the time, there is nobody around to tell you you're gonna be okay and you've done nothing wrong.

Hug yourself. Talk to yourself in the mirror. Pat yourself on the arm. Whatever it takes, be kind to yourself.

Your mother fell because she fell. Period. Its nobody's fault and, especially, not your fault.

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Mom falling
by: Dena of Oklahoma

My heart goes out to you.

So often you feel like you just simply cannot handle one more thing and then....

I hope you can find some solace in the fact that you were there for her preventing her from lying in the floor for who knows how long.

This job of caring for elderly parent(s) is by far the hardest job I have ever attempted and I served for 29 years in the military as a combat medic.....

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