Mommy Dearest??

by Vicki
(Virginia, USA)

My Mom is 82 years old and she's consuming my life. When I was a child she could be cruel. How many times did I hear my birthday story.

"They brought you in and I said, is this a baby or a monkey?"

Or..
"I really wanted your brother"
Meanwhile my loving brother lives out of state and makes phone calls or sends text messages, contributing nothing. But he's her "baby" so I bite my tongue. I'm resentful and angry and I want to shake it off because although there were hurtful moments there were wonderful times too.

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by: Anonymous

At the very least, if I were you I wouldn't bite my tongue any longer. Tell her how you feel. Tell her to knock off the monkey comment. That's cruel. But if she's like my Mom, she has "Good Intentions", and that makes it O.K. right?

Mine told me when she was still home, after a ten hour day at work and a three hour drive home with a stop to pick her up some of her favorite cookies, that my job made me stink so bad that I literally stunk up the entire room when I came in.

That felt really good. I gave it to her, then she cried and I felt horrible. She didn't say she was sorry though. She wrote me a letter explaining why what she said was a good thing.

I'm glad I told her how I felt at least.

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Maybe you could use a little help 🙂
by: Anonymous

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. They say people are cruelest to the ones they love the most. Maybe it’s time for the chosen child to do his part (sarcasm) and help out with your mother. Even a visit for a month would help you.

One person can’t do it all. There might also be some programs where you live, where help will come in to give you a break. I had that available to me but my mother said she didn’t need it and refused it. I wish you all the best. We are all hear to vent to and give unwanted advice 🙂.

Take Care
A

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