Mom Only Wants MY Help
I have started to do more and more for my 87 year old mother. She lives in an independent living senior facility and hasn't driven for years. I do her shopping, run errands, wash her clothes, and take her to all her doctor appointments tests, scans, etc. all while working full time.
Since I miss work to take her to all these appointments, I have started going in early and staying late to make sure I get all my work done and stay fearful that they will say something which thankfully hasn't happened yet. I am emotionally exhausted and don't want to lose my job as I am also helping her financially.
My problem is that although my mom is very appreciative she does not want anyone else helping her but me.
I checked into services that will take her to her appointments but she doesn't want "strangers" taking care of her. This gives me a huge amount of guilt for passing my sweet mother off to "strangers". How do I explain to her that I have to have some help without sounding like I don't like taking care of her.
I have always tried to not let her know what a strain this puts on me and so I think I have made things worse for myself for making it look so easy. Anyone else have luck with getting a loved one to agree to someone else taking them to appointments?