Mom, Me, Family. Which one do I choose
(Toronto Ontario Canada)
I can totally relate with you. My Mom has had severe depression + anxiety problems since I was 15 years old. I am 47 years old now.
My Mom has also had dementia for at least 12+ years, very slow progressing dementia. I was married 11 years ago and now have 2 kids, ages 10 & 7.
My life is trapped in my house and has been for 3 years now, see with my mom;s depression, she does not want to go out, read or should I say now cant understand anything and doesnt want to ever go outside. I mean trapped. I can't go out for me time, I snap at my kids, thank god my husband works afternoons or I would probably kill him with my mood.
I am on the maximum of anti-depressants and I still cry everyday. My family goes up to the trailer and I get to take care of my mom. Can't take it anymore. The care is always on my mom.
My family is always paying the price and I do not think its fair. I am really thinking of applying to put her in a nursing home. She is incontinent, she cannot walk by herself, she cannot get out of bed by herself.
All of the activities of daily living is not possible for her to do, however I feel sooooo guilty. What am I suppose to do? HELP!!!