Mom is Driving me Crazy!!!
I promised I would not put my 92 year old mom in a nursing home many years ago. I have sold my condo and bought a house so we could live together. It all sounded fine, until she moved in! She wants everything her way or she calls family and friends to tell them I'm being mean to her! I now have nearly everything I own in the basement because she wanted ALL her furniture and decor on the main floor.
She orders me around like I'm a child (I'm over 60). She pretends to feel I'll every time I want to have dinner or go shopping with friends. I got an alert button for her to wear but she says technology is a farce!
She wants to shop, bank and go to her weekly hair dresser appointment down where she used to live, over an hour away! Again, if I don't give in she starts phoning everyone.
She won't close her bedroom door at night so when she goes to bed at 8 pm she screams at me for any little noise or light turned on. She makes rude comments about everything I do around the house, and criticizes my cleaning and cooking.
Anything of mine on a shelf or table she'll stack on my bedroom dresser when I'm not looking. I can't get her to bathe (she does the duck in the sink and that's all). I cannot get my siblings to help with her.
My sister in law even told me to go on Valium so mom wouldn't upset me so much! She refuses to wear her hearing aids (they make her look old) so
the volume on the TV is cranked up to 55 (I listen at 10 or 11 at most).
She comes across as a sweet little old lady to everyone else but treats me horribly. I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, drive her wherever she needs/wants to go but she still calls me lazy and useless on a daily basis!
I have a little yorkie-alpso about 8 lbs. Mom drops her prescription pills all the time cuz she will only use little plastic cups to sort her pills herself instead of letting me do in the divided box container I got her.
I explained that if my puppy eats one she'll die, but mom says I'm overreacting as usual! She never shuts off faucets or lights. She over flows the toilet several times a week and claims it's my crummy plumbing (it's not).
She has arguments with my parrot that generally end up with both of them screaming Shut Up at each other. Parrots ALWAYS get the last word cuz they are mimics!
She keeps dragging her easy chair around my newly refinished hardwood living room floors scratching the crap out of them (this is so she doesn't get a cramp in her neck looking at the tv from just one angle all day). She said if I wasn't so lazy I'd buff them every week!
I can't have friends over any more cuz she plops herself right down in the middle of things and monopolizes the since and criticizes friends for their comments or choices in life.
I wish I was exaggerating, but I'm not! My life is he'll and I don't know what to do! Help!!!