Mom is always nasty to my son.

by tonianne dilena
(coram, ny)

Recently my 76 year old mother came to live in my house because my sister no longer wanted to deal with her care.


She has had many medical issues, cerebral hemorrhage, collapsed lung, emphysema, encephalitis three times, many bouts with pneumonia because of the decreased lung capacity. She uses oxygen when needed.

She is always very nasty and critical to my 28 year old son. For the most part he ignores her but in a social situation when we are all in the same room for 3-4 hours she really gets on his case and he wants to snap at her.

I have had the same experience with her but I tell her point blank that she is being mean and that is not acceptable. She doesn't like it but usually backs down. Her memory is not too good but she has her really good days.

I was not chosen as the caregiver I am the only choice as none of my siblings except my sister that threw her out, live in NY with us.

I don't mind taking care of her, it is inconvenient at times but some days are really fun and rewarding. These will be my memories when she is gone, I do not want to be fighting with my mom and son all the time. I would really love for him to have good memories of her when she is gone also.

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