Mom fighting us on her care
My 86 year old mother lives alone and complains everyday that’s she’s alone. My brother and I both work so we can’t be there for her. Recently her copd is getting worse and she can’t do a lot of things for herself, (showering, laundry, etc).
Her doctor suggested a home health aide but she doesn’t want somebody she doesn’t know and they have to be white(her words). She doesn’t take her medications she says too many side effects.
In a nut shell she only wants my brother or me to take care of her. I work 4 days a week, on my day off I have to bring her to DR appointments. Which leaves me pushing my stuff to the back.
She constantly complains to me about being alone. My brother says maybe a nursing home but she says she’s not leaving her home.
I am totally frazzled, have stress and can’t sleep because we talk every night and anything I recommend she fights me on. I’m just trying to help her, my brother pacifies her. For instance dr gave her antibiotics he says just take them when u need them, that’s not how they work .
I was totally humiliated when she told her dr she doesn’t want a black person in her house. I’m at my wits end.
My mother has alienated her friends and family.