Mom doesnt want to be Bothered with the Assisted Living Events depends on Me Only to Talk to

by pam

I love my mom very much and she is depressed and wont do anything to change her mood. I know she is 88 yrs.old and living in assisted living with activities and people all around to talk to. she eats her meals in the dining room then returns to her room. We bought her a 37 inch LED t.v. three weeks ago she hasn't even turned on the t.v. I am so depressed I know I can't make her happy if she doesn't want to be this hurt me so bad.

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by: Pam

Hi Pam

I'm in a similar situation with my dad, he is only 75. We lost my mum back in August to non-hodgkins lymphoma and dad has gone down hill at a rapid rate. He too is in assisted living, demands I visit every day and finds excuses for me to have to go there.

He has even starting with attention seeking ploys to make me drop everything and come running..... He calls me at least a dozen times a day, I screen the calls now. He called me at work one morning telling me he was sick, very ill, constipated and that noone there would help him get to hospital... I knew this wasn't true, he just wanted me there. It's been very hard but I've had to be strong and not give in to his demands.

I work full time (5 minutes from him) have a family and home. I know he's being cared for and will hopefully settle down. Hope this made you feel less alone as your message made me feel :-)

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