Miss M Speaks Up
(Lake Charles LA USA)
My brother & I placed our widowed 90 year-old father in the nursing home because of falls and failure to take medication as prescribed. We both have jobs but he runs his own business.
It seems as if I am the "go to" person to do errands & visitation or a regular basis. I am not the financial guardian & am expected to leave messages requesting money to purchase consumables. I should say that we come from a culture were women are subservient to men and are expected to do what we are told!
It should be told that a few years prior my brother did not help care for my 93 year-old grandmother when she lived with my parents.
I asked for help to cover shifts and he was too busy with his own business to help. Suddenly our mother became terminally ill and our grandmother was moved out of town to a nursing home.
The time has passed when I feel or even ask for help in getting any support caring for my father. I need help cleaning & disposing of my parents' home and contents. my brother has mowed the yard a few times but has yet to pack the first box. He hired someone to clean 3 bathrooms.
My father is anxious to sell his antiques and home but my brother is too busy with his business to help. What can I do to get his help?
I have been helping my boyfriend with his deceased mothers' home break down during the same 12 months. Help!