Misery of Old Age 2

by Gloria
(United Kingdon)

I wrote about the misery of old age, and tonight I have just returned from my mothers hospital bed, it is heartbreaking to see your mother in such a pitiful state and the longing you have to have your mother back as she once was, but that can never be it`s the cycle of life and we have no choice in the matter.

I had a reply from my last letter from a woman call Leasa, and I see that she has replied to many people and given them sound advice.

Leasa it is so nice of you to take an interest in other peoples problems, and it makes such a difference when you know that someone out there who cares.

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by: Leasa

OMG...thank you. I started coming here during this last year because of what I was going through with my own mom, I was tormented! I also worked in gerontology for 10 years before becoming a farmer along with my husband 20 some years ago.

There is so little help out there and I really feel so deeply about what the posters on this site are going through...as I've felt it all myself so deeply. When you are in some of these situations, clear thinking is often impossible because of the stress, fatigue and we can end up giving up our own lives, sacrificing our own health and developing a deep, deep hate that burns and can linger for the rest of our lives.

Sometimes all people need, is for someone out there to lay it out for us, to snap those fingers to bring us around and see things for the way they really are. All we need is to have a stranger care enough to take a few minutes and answer our weak call for help on some indiscriminate message board.

As for guilt, I've worn the guilt hat a few times in my life. Until I realized that guilt is not a solid thing and is only as real as we allow it to be.

I will keep throwing my two cents in from time to time here, but please remember I am only one human person talking from my own experience and what I say is not a one size fits all advice. People can digest what I say, then see if it fits their situation and family. At least they know they've been heard.

Thank you for your kind words. I am so glad to let you know you've been heard and someone does care. ~Leasa

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