Middle Child

by Lavnere
(Hawaii)

Several years ago I asked my 87 year old mother to live with me. At the time I was divorced and didn't have any relationship. When she was ready to move in I started seeing my current boyfriend. She didn't like the things he was saying to her, making her think he didn't want her around. I was always caught in the middle. Most of the time he would be joking with her but she takes things the wrong way or she doesn't hear exactly what he said since she is going deaf.

The tension between them was getting unbearable so I told him he can't stay over anymore.

If we do see each other its mostly going out to dinner and not at m house. My mom threatens to move out since she said we would be both be happier.

The thing is she gave her house to my brother (rent free) and she would not hear of moving back into her own house. She's been single for 40 years so I think the problem is she has a hard time living with other people.

My older sister tries to talk to her, my brother is totally oblivious and doesn't know what is going on. I get all the grief, how I only take the side of my boyfriend, how I talk to my boyfriend better than I speak to her.

I wonder if I should just let her move out and see what happens. I feel guilt, for even asking her to move in with me, for not braking up with my boyfriend, whom she dislikes. What to do?!

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