Grandfather is an alcoholic (no drink since May), narcissistic and always has been. He was abusive to both mother and grandmother physically and mostly emotional. There is no bond whatsoever, but we have to pretend there is to care for him.
He is quick to anger and is really not nice, but to other people he is this lovely old man who is so kind and friendly... I wish other people see what myself and my mum see every single day when caring for him and I wish they could even just witness the abuse.
Father passed away and brother lives away and has nothing to do with him, he doesn't even call or write. There is none else.
Grandfather is moderate/severe dementia so I dread what is going to happen in the future. I do not have a life anymore - everything 24/7 is him and the same with my mother. Even when we are at home - we are constantly on edge as to when he will call us, we see him every day and just face constant abuse.