Main Care not Letting Us Help

by Joy
(Ireland)

My sister who is main care for my aging mum refuses to let is help. I live 7 hours away and am a qualified nurse with extensive experience with elder care. I have asked endless times that I wanted to care for my mother and let them go on holiday.


She refuses any help and there is always tension as my mother wants me to be with her when they are away. If I go to my mothers when they are all at home I am micromanaged and am not allowed to spend time alone with my mother.

It is so painful as she does a great job which I let her know and don't interfere with how she deals with mum. I am being pushed out of my relationship with my mother whom I have always been close to.

It is an awful situation...

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