Love Mom, but Losing my Sanity

by Caroline
(Roseville ,MI USA)

I am primary caregiver for my 82-yr-old mom. Two brothers,both out-of-state,neither contributes any type of help. They are absolutely clueless regarding the emotional,physical,psychological,and monetary toll this 24/7 responsibility is taking on their sister. Mom is bed bound due to arthritis,I wait on her hand and foot,the workload is becoming too much.


Sometimes I look at my mom and she looks like a helpless child and I start to cry, or sometimes I remember how she once was so full of life,and wish we could go back. I have a friend I've known nearly 40 years who has offered no help,nor have any of my cousins, who mom was very good to.

I was a nurse for 30 years,but nothing prepares you for caring for a loved one,especially with such little support. Will pray for us all.

Caroline

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Me, Too
by: Anonymous

I wait on my mom hand and foot too. It is completely exhausting. I tend to every need from the moment her walker scrapes into the kitchen in the morning until I rouse her from her chair to go to bed at night.

She is unable to contribute anything, no energy, no conversation. Questions are constantly repeated. Conversations go nowhere. Everything is a yes or no answer. Then repeat. She’s pretty much just here physically. It’s feed in the morning, clean-up, feed in the afternoon, clean-up, feed at night, clean-up and occasionally doctor appointments. She doesn’t have the energy or ability to go anywhere or do anything. At this point it’s really just maintenance.

I’m not being mean. My mom was good to me and I’m good to her. I’m just stating how it is. And it’s hard sometimes.

I have a brother who lives out of state and visits twice a year. He calls every night. He’s good in trying to do what he can, when he can. But the only ones who truly know are the ones doing it day-in and day-out.

I, too, say, bless us all for what we do and please help us keep a good attitude while doing it. We have to try to maintain a loving attitude for their sake as well as our own.

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