Love in the Retirement Home?
by Puzzling Pete
My Dad was placed into a high-end retirement home about six months ago by my Mom and grown sister who still lives at home with them. I was sad at first and then angry at the both of them for their decision to put Dad in a home. He has dementia bad and is incontinent. He can still walk and tries to talk to people if they give him a chance.
Since he was placed in the home, my sister and Mom have slowly scaled back their visits to the place and now go to see him once a week or every two weeks. The care facility is only 15 minutes away for them. I live about an hours drive away and try to come and see Dad every weekend.
I work five days a week and have a family to take care of at home with my husband. I just found out from a very heated phone conversation with my sister that my Dad has found love at the retirement home. This little old lady and him sit and hold hands and go for little walks in the outside garden area. They eat together and watch television and even sing Karaoke too.
My sister claims that my Dad has been kissing her on the mouth and that he is "cheating" on my Mom. Instead of being angry at Dad, I told her "Good for Him"!. She is furious with me and demanded a reason so I let her have it with both barrels. I said you and Mom threw Dad away like a piece of garbage that wasn't any longer desired so I think Dad deserves to find someone that loves him for the good person he is now and has always been.
Now my Mom and her won't speak to me. Am I wrong for encouraging my Dad with is new found love? I just think he needs to know someone loves him and it isn't coming from his wife anymore. Is this wrong of me?