Love in the Retirement home Part 2! Disaster
by Problem Pete
I first want to apologize to everyone for my rant before about how wonderful it was that my Dad had found a love interest in the retirement home he was placed in.
Also, my nickname is "Pete" from both my Mom and Dad and I am their daughter, not son.
I don't know what compelled me to say such awful things to my Mom and sis but I felt so bad about how my Dad seemed like he had just been discarded like an old pair of slippers or shoes. I have to tell you that my Dad's behavior is now no longer acceptable per the retirement home as they have threatened me with tossing him and us out if he can't keep his hands to himself! They also claimed that he tried to take his pants off in a common hallway and there was two or three ladies present!
I have apologized profusely to both my Mom and sis and even sent them each a dozen roses trying to say just how badly I do feel about my actions and harsh words. They are still really mad at me and both told me since I'm the one who thought it was so cute that I can be the one to figure out how to deal with the problem now.
I'm really scared for Dad because I only know of one other good place for him and there is a long wait list to get into it. I'm sorry for what I said to my Mom. She had an anxiety/angina attack and is now on another medicine for her heart. I feel horrible!
Not only do I feel bad about the way I mishandled everything I just found out from my Dads main caregiver lady that my Mom has been coming almost every day to see him and its obvious that she really does love him. She tries to kiss him goodbye and he won't let her so she blows him a kiss.
God I feel awful. I'm making my Mom's favorite dish and driving it over to her tonight after I get off work. I just want her to be okay and for her and my sister to please forgive me in my poor judgement. What can we do about my Dad's behavior? I don't want to see him drugged out but what are the options for this? Anyone?