Lost, Sad and Sometimes Troubled

My mother passed a year ago to cancer and my step dad was diagnosed with cancer and is in recovery.


The problem is he's helping my sibling's financially and when I ask him can he help me with electric and partial rent he totally blows me off. He lives in my home.

My son moved out so his grandpa could have his room. Siblings doesn't help. They call only to ask for money from him and it's causing a lot of problems with me and my fiance who is financially taking care of both of us.

I have asked my sibling's can they please stop asking and I explain that Dad's not helping us and my fiance and also my son (from a previous marriage) is putting me in a solution ....they both want me to ask my step dad to go live with his kids. His daughters both live with roommates.

One daughter and only one ask for him he doesn't want to live with because she lives in the mainland and last daughter doesn't want anything to do with him.

One son lives in a loft with his wife,other in a homeless shelter with his family of 3 and the other one is living with a girlfriend and her family. Last one lives in the mainland which has also asked for money.

I love my mother and I know she would want me to take care of him as I have for her. How can I make him understand I want to take care of him but I need some kind of help.

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Kick him out!
by: Anonymous

Tell him point blank, if you can afford to support the rest of the family with your money you can get your own apt in senior living because I can no longer support you financially.

So either pay your part of the rent/mortgage or we are moving you to a nursing home, assisted living or apartment. Don't just threaten be prepared to back up your threat and take him to start looking at places.


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