Losing My Mind
I'm 56, I lost my dad a few years ago. In the last stages of my dad's illness I moved in with them to help care for him. I'm single, divorced, I have a brother and sister, both married with college age kids. Being the oldest girl, and single, I'm the designated caregiver. I work full time and pay all the bills, everything. My mom spends her entire income on TV shopping. She's put her bills in my name somehow.
She's only in her early 70s and capable of doing many things. She can't drive due to a mild stroke she had last year. I'm driver, housekeeper, cook, accountant, etc. she will not do anything but sit in the chair and shop.
She refuses to socialize, she says I'm her best friend, she won't even answer her own phone. If she does and it's one of her friends that lives out of state, she says hi and hands the phone to me. "Here, talk to my daughter." What the frick?
It's very bizarre and frustrating. My sister will ask her if she wants to go out to lunch or something, and she agrees, but always cancels at the last minute. They don't ask anymore. I can't have any kind of social life.
My life is pretty much over. I'm on anti anxiety medications, I'm constantly broke. She always wants more from me. Stacked of empty QVC boxes full of crap everywhere. Ive asked, begged, cried, please stop all this spending, I'm barely treading water, gone thru most of my savings paying her expenses.
I knew my dad was always frustrated with her spending but now I see what he was really going thru. I'm tired of the constant worry, feeling I'm not good enough, isolation. I feel like a hostage and moron that I feel this way.