Loneliness

For any of you out there like me, who find themselves in the trenches alone, you know the loneliness I'm talking about.


My mom is in early stage Alzheimer's or senility or dementia, or whatever label you want to put on it, she is just losing her ability to think and talk straight. I live with her, there is no family around, and most days it's just her and I here in the house.

I have two brothers who have families and they are aware of the situation and we talk about it but they live far away. I have good friends who listen to me all the time and give me a shoulder to cry on. I even go to a support group once a month.

I'm also a spiritual person who relies on God for my strength.

But for all that, I don't have a partner in life and I don't have children and when things happen with my mom there is no one who is standing in the same room with me hearing and seeing and experiencing it all just like I do, at the same time I do.

By the time I see a friend or a group or talk to someone, I've had to absorb it all and deal with it all on my own, there is no one to share the burden. I think we are a unique group, those of us who do it all by ourselves.

So much is done without witness, without validation, without confirmation, we go through it by ourselves and just bury a lot of it and keep going forward.

So just a shout-out and a big hug for all of you in the same boat. I think at the end of the day that's all I really want is a hug by someone who understands.

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Thanks, Laura!
by: Anonymous

I'm the one who wrote this original entry a long time ago.

I just came across it today, on a day I really needed to hear such thoughtful and heart-felt support.

Thanks to you and to all those other unknown people who, with just a few kind words, help us all get through another day with hope.

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Loneliness
by: Laura

We are all influenced to admire actors, musicians, models...... not the people in the trenches. I admire you, you deserve the golden globe of goodness and unselfishness.

It is fairly easy for the rich and famous to donate their time, wearing donated designer gowns, jewels and being rewarded with hundred thousand dollar plus gift bags for showing their professionally made up mugs for whatever charity but it is people like yourself doing the heavy lifting who rarely receive well deserved gratitude.

It is also fairly disgusting to hear how wonderful this or that famous person is, with photographic evidence of them "in the trenches" in whatever impoverished country, dressed down as though they are really roughing it, but think about, PHOTOGRAPHIC evidence...... There is a camera crew there and probably Kraft services.

Not to say that no actor, musician or model ever does anything unselfish, some of them do, look at Rosie O'Donnell, I couldn't disagree much more with anyone politically nor respect anymore much more for her charitable works and advocating for infants and children.

Back to the subject at hand, I understand how lonely caregiving IS and long term it is terminally isolating. You deserve all the respect and admiration in the world. God Bless You and I hope you find the greatest love this world has to offer. Hugs and bliss!!!!!!!!!

Laura

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by: Anonymous

Your story resonates for me.

Especially the simplicity of needing affection.
My brother and sister live within a mile so it is almost worse.

I am trying to find a job at 57 and I am so depressed, worn out - I have nothing,
this scares me.

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Sweet
by: Anonymous

THANKS!!!!

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hug
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Big Hug Back!!

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