Let Go of Resentment
I am the youngest of 6 children, 3 sister's and 2 brother's, one of my brother's is my twin.
I am also a Registered Nurse by profession, but resigned from my last position to care for my Mother and subsequently my Aunt who moved in with my Mother. I have always just adjusted my life to the care of my mother, it never crossed my mind to NOT be there for her every step of the way!
It wasn't until she lost an eye (cancer), and stopped driving that I realized I was the
only one taking care of things.
As both my aunt and Mother needed more, and more help, my disillusionment with my sibling's grew.
I pivot between "asking" for help, and expecting that at my mother's age (91!), help should be
offered....ignorance is NO excuse! I also have realized that people really do not change, and I cannot FORCE them to help, it's unhealthy to drag so much resentment around!
It was making me a person my husband didn't like, and I was sick of my own complaining! My Mother is now in Hospice and her sister (Aunt) is her constant companion.
We have her at home and I thank God everyday that we were fortunate enough to set this up. I am grateful everyday for having the job of taking care of her, it let's me sleep at night, it will be my gift to myself when we say goodbye.
That is priceless!
Once I dropped that baggage, my life became much easier! Forgive! Anger can be toxic, and you cannot control other people!