Left in a Horrible Position
I lost my husband after a surgical error and 151 day hospital stay. My father retired from life four months later on my kitchen floor as I stepped out for five minutes to get a parking placard.
Our loss left my mother in a state of decline, as my parents were with each other for the last 25 years retired 24 hours a day.
Trying to get on my feet after the devastating loss of my husband and still recouping after our son had a stroke at a young age, my mother became a 24 hour a day responsibility.
She has multiple co morbidity's as well as residuals from a brain injury and I have not been successful in finding a residential care program for her so I could maintain my employment.
So, I lost my job, as I could not afford an aide for the time I was at work anymore.
It is 24 hours a day and I have not been apart from her since June 28th of last year. Not five minutes. She turns nasty and violent when I attempt to find an aide so I can go back to work and they refuse to care for her. I can not blame them.
Between the OCD, extreme anxiety, brain injury, AD and other health issues, one of which takes very special care and monitoring, she is intense maintenance.
No social life, no work outside the home, no spending quality time with my son or grandson, it is horrible. I am so tired, like the rest of us.
Meanwhile, my parents purchased property in the Caribbean 25 years ago when they retired and where it is forced heir ship so her home and assets that could be used for her needs are not available until all the courts finalize everything, since we lost my father.
So we are struggling, there is no one to help and I mean no one.
I hate life.
We are forced to live like dogs to make ends meet.