(Boston, Mass USA)
I am the youngest 51 now my parents were great for the most part. 25 years ago my dad had a stroke one morning and was paralyzed for life and retired only few years early.
Once the medications were right he did pretty good. Was a navy man and the event did not break his spirit and though he was the one suffering he always had a big smile and said how are you
He never gave up I have tears right now but okay. I stayed home mom struggled and she had a breakdown emotionally but gave her all and her and I helped dad around the clock.
Not entirely as my two brothers and two sisters were married got along as kids except one brother I had a great gf ready to marry have kids enjoy life.
Well, I kept caring for dad and ma so she thru in the towel and thought I did not love her and married someone else. My dad lived twenty years with a few close calls...doc said you love him so much. He would fight through every surgery and come out smiling made me cry every time happiness.
Okay, then did little nursing home time because it was safer and passed away years later. Mom has arthritis walks with walker unstable and angry, screams and argues with me about everything.
She wakes upstarts complaining again. I feel robbed screwed insulted like. I'm a no life loser.
I had my own business all that
time plus I got up three times a nite to go to I bathroom. My oldest brother calls once a year and says happy new year.
The others jump in an out pick up a few grocery sometimes throw some laundry in and leave. They are so busy. None of them have a job ever and they come here do some bullshit and leave and speak the same words "I have a family I have a family" Big Deal....on weekends. To this day they have never taken my parents anywhere, not even to local breakfast.
I blew off all my friends, girlfriends, future wife and I did not leave my parents on the couch all weekend. I took them to NYC, Newport, RI dinners, scenic drives, day trips every where every weekend.
They still play the same game, "Oh, if ma is upset or u want to come for dinner we are here".
So 26 years went by and I make sure my mother takes every step without falling until she improved a little. Cook, coffee, clean laundry blah, blah, blah, and I am not even allowed to have a friend over.
I don't sleep normal. I was at work last week passed out almost went down 30 ft staircase. The people fed me and saved me. No one cared here, just said you must need more fluids.
Sorry so long but all true 1:43 AM to write this with no TV, phone or running visitors b
Bless your thoughts please.