Lack of Support from Society is Disheartening

I personally find the lack of support from society disheartening. The fact that I'm trying to help my elderly parent means nothing to people. Generally all I ever get is negative opinions from everyone, including friends and coworkers. That I should throw my parent in some sort of facility and be done with her.

For that reason I have found myself gradually withdrawing from the human population over the past few years because of their negativity and lack of support. I have found that is better for my mental health to keep away from these people and to turn to my spiritual faith for support rather than constantly fending off their negative opinions and useless advice. I don't understand why society finds taking care of elderly parents so bad.

People are willing to take care of 4 stupid dogs or to adopt other people's children yet they are totally negative about care giving of an elderly parent. Also people will have parties and take up collections just because someone is having a baby yet there is NO support whatsoever for someone who is taking care of an elderly parent. I mean verbal support, compassion, empathy, a kind word, an ATTA girl, a little card to boost the spirits, an offer to help out with a chore, JUST NOT ADVICE. Do you think anyone could offer any of this? NO.

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by: Anonymous

I am the one who posted Lack of Support from Society is Disheartening. Do you realize that your response didn't even address my issue?? Why do you need to immediately twist the issue to the subject of moving an elderly parent into a nursing home? In fact, nursing home care isn't even the issue for me at this particular point in time.

The subject of my comment is the fact that society does not support caregivers, and your comment just underscored my issue! I am merely looking for a tidbit of support from people for the very hard work of caring for an elderly parent, and I stated black and white that I didn't want any advice about it.

My parent doesn't need a nursing home and is fully in her right mind. She is semi-independent and lives alone with help from me. Why does everyone seem to find that so bad? What I would like to hear from people (or else get out of my way) is that care giving is hard but rewarding; my parent is difficult but has many struggles which cause her to be so difficult; to hang in there because this is temporary, so on and so on.

I find it disheartening that when I post a comment on this board which is supposed to be a support service for caregivers, all I get in return is the usual comebacks about putting my mother in a home. I do not plan on posting on this board any more.

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Sorry you are feeling this way
by: Anonymous

Sorry you are feeling this way. I am sure it can sound mean or hurtful when someone suggests moving your mother into a facility. These facilities can provide the care that elderly people need. It can be difficult to see but if you take a step back you may see that your elderly mother. Try to take a step back and think about what you can do to better your situation and your mothers. Moving an elderly parent into a facility doesn't mean you are abandoning them, it just means they will be somewhere that they receive the care they need and relieve some of the stress from you.

Good luck to you, and know that people do care.

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