Julie Can Do It!

by Julie
(California)

I have two sisters, one 62 me 60 and younger one 48.

Parents in medical ill health. Dad 88 with many health issues, congestive heart failure, heart by pass 4 way pacemakers, cheek tumor and radiation, and last year breast cancer mastectomy.

OUR 84 yr old Mother is 5'3" and a hundred pounds overweight, legs and ankles so swollen her feet are purple and Diverticulitis..... can hold urine has to be helped getting in and out of bed. She has refused any and all rehabilitation.

The 48 yr old is still a spoiled child since we were all moved out by the time she was 5. So she has made it clear that she will do NOTHING to help, no surprise since she's never done one thing to help.

Its my older sister that has now decided to move to another state. Even though she swore to me she would not leave until my Dad passes.
Yep, the medical nightmare is all on me. Of course 62 says she will help as she will be coming about every 8 weeks or so.

I hate both my sisters at this point and will care for my parents until my dad goes. My two sisters can deal with my mother after that. I do not have and since birth had a good relationship with my mother, my 62 sister does.

I have realized that it has always been our Dad's love that has held us together. Now that he is failing and wont be around very much longer our family will never be the same again. I have no desire to have any relationship with my sisters again.
the caretaker

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I feel the Same Way
by: Doug

I feel very much the same way. When mom dies I will cut all ties with my two older useless retired brothers. And happy to do so. I have lost over 40 thousand dollars in income and the stress of caring for mom is overwhelming. I look forward to the day I am free of my family

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