Joe and Joyce
My father is a very selfish and ungrateful and demanding man. I retired in 2012 and my wife and I were going to travel for six months, unfortunately my mother passed away 3 months after I retired, so we put our plans on hold to take care of my father which has been very challenging.
They didn’t have a will or anything when she passed, so my wife and took care of everything. I am the power of attorney and I handle his bills.
He had a heart attack in 2015, and left the hospital 2 days later against the doctors orders. This action let the doctors thinking about his mental health and other things, well he had to get retested for driving, he failed both oral and driving test. He has been a challenge since.
This past week I had to have an exterminator come because of mice droppings and ants all over the house. The bug guy suggested that the house be thoroughly deep cleaned, so I go 3 companies to give me quotes..then two days later he don’t want it. He does have the means to have this done.
This is not the first time he has this type of thing. My wife and I have serious health issues, I have Parkinson’s and 4 other diseases. My wife has a terminal lung disease and other health issues, but she cooked dinner for him for almost five years. She doesn’t do it now.
I have done more for my dad over the last five years that I can count and my younger brother hasn’t done much. I decided that my brother has to pull his fair share. He as always been the golden child.
My wife and I are both tired and frankly disgusted with my father. I believe he belongs in an assisted living facility, but he refuses to go. Now that we both are ill our plans to travel have become a dream.
I resent my father for his selfishness and ungratefulness over the last five years. All he’s done was take, take and take.
I have also lost my respect for him. No matter what you do for him, it’s never enough, I’ve had it.