it's better to be me than anyone els.

by WHAA
(Jeddah, Saudi Arabia)

My father's kidneys have shut down completely, he is undergoing dialysis now since 10 days ago… I find peace when I take care of him....being his only son and no one else can do what I’m doing for him…


Yes, it’s better me than someone else... I know what does he like.....how does he eat, pray, reads Quran and even how to go to toilet.

Yesterday he had diarrhea, so he kept on …. (you know) … and every single time I had to clean him up, change the sheets and everything......he is my father and one of the reasons I’m here in this world, I’m in my very late 20s now.....I serve him and take care of him and I can’t be any happier.

Now what kept bothering me is WORK, my vacation balance has come to ZERO, I started taking unpaid leave.....my boss who –thank God- has been patient with me so far but I don’t think that he will last for long.....
So.....resentment....NO....worries....hell ya... anger....just few times....I’m supporting the family not to mentioned future plan and personal goals....

Again....it’s better me than anyone else…

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Care for your Future
by: Christine

I so understand the position you are in, the sacrifices you have made and the indignities you have been subjected to. Your heart is loving; your loyalty is amazing.

You are young, and what you need to do AS you care for your father, is to protect your future - and your future income potential. Sometime in that future, even if your father is not there to share it, you may find yourself in the position of establishing and supporting a family. Please protect your ability to do that, as your father would wish you to, I'm sure.

Don't burn any bridges with those who know of your heart AND your intelligence. The seasons of life are what will inevitably bring you to your heritage. Please protect your ability to continue your father's legacy. And please be well.

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