Isolated and Critisized by Many

by Anonymous

I have a home but live with mom who is 99 years old, with macular degeneration and many health issues. My brother recently died and the family tried to hurt me by secretly forcing my mother to sign papers.


My mother reversed this - the family, who comes about once a month to visit, always criticizes me. I receive reports of unkind remarks from some jealous relatives.

My mother has a lot of property and she runs me ragged.
She refuses to sell anything and I am responsible for cleaning, not only her home and mine (which I pay for and don't have time to enjoy)- but also other properties of hers.

I have stopped doing that,because of health issues......

I was always a healthy person. Now I have a number of issues - skin ulcer which does not heal, etc.

I had a wonderful life when my husband was alive.

Except for a wonderful son and his family, whom I do
see twice a week, I am very lonely. I feel angry
because people have spoken against me - for taking
once in a while time for myself. I am here with mom every day - she doesn't walk much any more and refuses to go out.

Everyone feels sorry for mom - no one cares at all about me and dislike me for being depressed. I don't even have any money left to talk to a therapist, my expenses are so high.

I am glad I can help my mother now that she has
needs me. I have no moral support from my family and have little time for my friends. I haven't seen some friends for two years but we talk.

I have good friends, but those good people in my life are not part of my present situation. I am surrounded for the most part by people who do not care much for me and, even though they don't lift a finger to help, find pleasure criticizing me - to my face and behind my back.

Other people seem also to take pleasure in
reporting what they say....mostly heartless comments.

I realize now why I have the habit of watching birds - for their complete freedom. My love for my mother is separate from the human desire for simple pleasures of life which mom only seems to really enjoy when she is surrounded by a lot of people.

I feel very sorry for her but I wish I did not have to feel guilty every time I leave the house. We have a lady who comes for a few hours at a time, but this is not enough. We have gone through thieves and busybodies, so I am not anxious to be told to call
an "agency". I've had enough of that.

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I hear you !
by: Anonymous

I hear you and I understand. It is such an unfair situation and one that we are not prepared for at all. It doesn't help when family members that could be and should be helping - just add to the frustration.

I hope you are able to hire help soon. You need a break and at least help with the cleaning and such. It is too much for one person. I too have had a decline in health. It is a nightmare.

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