Is it time for Assisted Living?
I've been caring for my mother for six years, after divorce from my stepfather. Mom suffered a brain aneurysm in 1991, and she has various disabilities from this.
In April 2012, mom moved in with my husband and me. The "care plan" has been adult day care 2 days per week with a third day added recently, plus 4 hours of private duty caregiving until this past month, when mom started to have nausea and vomiting, and she was hospitalized.
Now, today she was discharged from hospital to subacute rehab. We have options at discharge from rehab of either (1) return home to continue adult day care and private duty care increased because doctors say she needs 24/7 care; or assisted living.
After calculations, I have determined the costs will be the same whether we place mom in assisted living or keep her at our home with 5 days per week adult day care and 8 hours day private duty care.
She has four years of "resources" available for her care, regardless if we spend down her assets or place her in assisted living I don't know what decision to make for my mother at this time.
We have had a change of circumstances since my mom moved in with us. I have taken another job that requires me to be away from home significant hours, and my husband, semi retired, took on a full time job.
My mother lives in our furnished basement apartment, which is quite comfortable. We have a few weeks to decide, as mom is in the rehab facility, and the assisted living facility is part of the rehab facility. Please give me your feedback and input.
I want what is best for my mom, and I wish that i could provide it, but it is not working to have mom home. She needs a special diet, and she has dementia, anxiety and depression.
If she goes into assisted living, will continue to be her "caregiver" because I am Power of Attorney. Thanks for your help.