Indifference from Siblings Towards Youngest as Caregiver.
I didn't "choose" to take care of my parents, it happened by circumstance. I lost my job, my home and had to move in with my parents, who are both 87 years old but now need assistance with daily routines.
I have 5 older siblings some of who live 2 states away. I have lived my parents since October of 2011 and have been putting myself through school again to re-educate myself to be able to get a job to be independent again. I had no idea I would end up a caregiver.
It's not that I don't love my parents, but I was emotionally ill-equipped for this job! although I'm a caring and giving person for anyone, especially for my family, even when I didn't have the finances to help another sibling, I still gave what I could.
My father suffers from Dysphagia, which makes it difficult for him to swallow and speak. He has gone through speech and physical therapy, but now he is suffering from muscle weakness due to lack of exercise/physical activity and we can no longer understand him at all. It's very frustrating, for both myself, my mother and my Dad- regarding his speech.
When my siblings come to visit for a "weekend" they try to communicate with him, thinking he could miraculously be able to speak clearly to them- or he is ignored by them. They are nice, yet don't understand the constant daily interaction with my Dad, how frustration is a dominant factor.
They think they can "fix" the problem. They say they understand and they are there for us-but an occasional phone call doesn't cut it.